If you want to tell your boss to get off your back without being rude, you’ve stumbled over the right article.
Having a micromanager as a boss could be one of the worst problems at work, and I’m here to let you know how to deal with it without losing your job. :p
1. Understand their reasons.
Managers tend to micromanage for several reasons.
Your manager might have trust issues. They need to keep a close eye on everything going on to protect the workplace from your evil plans. Ok that’s too much but you get my point.
It could be because they lack confidence. Some people thrive on controlling others, it makes them feel powerful.
Or it could be the exact opposite. Your manager might be very smart, organizational, and a good planner. Their strong confidence makes it hard for them to delegate because they feel that no one would be able to do the task as good as them.
Finally, I’m sorry but you could be the problem. If you’re not doing your job well, be thankful your manager hasn’t fired you yet. Micromanaging is the least they can do!
2. Build trust.
As mentioned above, a reason for micromanaging could be the lack of trust, regardless of whether you’re trustworthy or not.
Trust takes time to build, but it’s very crucial to every healthy relationship, be it personal or professional.
How to build trust?
Complete tasks on time, and don’t forget to notify them in case of any delay.
Ensure that your tasks are always well-done.
Build some kind of personal relationship with your manager, it can help in making them trust you better.
3. Make them aware.
Some managers might not even be aware of their micromanaging tendencies.
Let them know in a very respectful manner. Be honest, not blunt, you need to soften the blow.
Politely explain the issue and how it’s affecting you. Have some specific examples at hand.
Make sure they understand that you don’t hate them or have a personal problem with them. Explain to them that you would do better at work if you can manage a sense of independence.
If you feel it will hurt their feelings, make it sound like it’s for their benefit. You don’t want to tire them by calling you every day is all 😌!
4. Suggest alternatives.
Asking for complete freedom doing your work might be too much for a micromanager, you need to have some negotiation skills.
When you mention the examples (as we agreed above), provide practical alternatives that will help keep your manager’s mind at rest.
Schedule checkup meetings in a fair way, neither should they check up on your work twice a day, nor do you get to leave them clueless for days.
Set a list of expectations with the help of your manager and assure them you’ll stick to it.
5. Prove yourself.
Show that you don’t need to be micromanaged.
Fulfill all the tasks and expectations that are put upon you. Actions speak louder than words.
Okay now, don’t expect things to change overnight. This needs a lot of mutual effort. Try to understand the reason behind the controlling behavior, maintain honest communication, work up to what’s expected from you, and soon things will work out for you!